I am obsessive. I am rarely content. I am always looking to better myself and I have a nonstop stream of ideas constantly rattling around in my head. I used to think that the noise is what was going to give me an edge. I was wrong. I was way wrong.
The real advantage comes from the calm. Not the manic inner workings of my anxiety ridden brain.
Have a schedule. It is next to impossible for me to focus on the task at hand if I do not know what is happening next. There is a great deal of freedom in having an organized and coherent plan of attack for your day. I primarily work from home so it is really easy to start day dreaming about what project I have to work on next. I have been trying to make sure I schedule time to talk to my son when he gets home from school. The same goes with my fiance. I literally schedule time to give them my undivided attention.
Meditation has changed my life in a profound way. I am not a monk and I am no mental health expert, but I can attest from personal experience. Meditating on a regular basis, (ten minutes a day), has had a profound affect on my life. Ask my fiance. From meditating I have been able to really observe how loud my head is. After practicing meditation I started to understand that the noise, self doubt, and the constant loop of reactions to emotions was not only happening when I slowed down. It was constant. It was affecting every area of my life. The only thing that made it get better was by sitting down and intentionally letting go.
I started asking better questions. I used to say things like, “I hate small talk, I refuse to do it.” A good way to avoid small talk to is to listen to people and then ask them about themselves. I could be wrong but I think most people hate small talk. The next time someone asks you about the weather try this. Look them in the eyes for a few seconds and ask them about their day. Then pause and wait for a response.